Love is a Skill. Ask Miyamoto Mushashi.
By Faarouq Christian
Most people think love is something that happens to you. Like rain. Like luck. Like “I wasn’t even looking for it’’
Musashi would’ve hated that sentence. This is a man who fought over 60 duels and never lost. Not because he was the strongest. Not because he had better vibes. But because he trained when nobody was watching.
Author of The Book Of Five Rings a manual on strategy that reads like war and more like therapy if you’re paying attention.
He didn’t believe in hype. He believed in practice. And that’s the part no one wants to hear about love.
Love Is Not A Square
Most people treat love like a square.
Step 1: Attraction
Step 2: Infatuation
Step 3: Attachment
Step 4: Confusion
Four corners. Very dramatic. Netflix-ready.
But squares have edges, edges create friction, friction creates ego battles..
“Why you didn’t text back?”
“Why you acting funny?”
“Who’s this that keeps liking your story?”
Musashi would’ve blinked twice and went back to sharpening his sword.
Because love, if it’s real isn’t a staircase. It’s a stance.
Love Is A Circle
A circle has no beginning and no end.
It doesn’t build up. It doesn’t crash down. It remains.
Musashi trained in circles. Sword forms repeated until they weren’t moves anymore, they were reflex.
Thats devotion.
Not obsession, not overthinking, not refreshing someone’s location like it’s stock market data.
Devotion is repetition without applause.
Love as skill means:
You practice patience even when annoyed.
You practice clarity instead of assumption.
You practice restraint when your ego wants to swing.
Skill is boring to the undisciplined.
That’s why most people prefer drama.
Drama feels like passion. Skill feels like peace.
And peace is unfamiliar to those used to emotional sparring.
The Real Flex
Musashi used two swords at once. That’s cool. You know what’s cooler? Being able to hold love and boundaries at the same time.
That’s dual-wielding. Most people can’t do it. They either:
Love with no structure
Or create structure with no love
Square behavior.
A circle holds both.
You can be warm without being weak. You can be devoted without dissolving. You can care deeply without losing posture.
That’s stance.
And if your stance is unstable, every emotional argument feels like a duel to the death.
Devotion Isn’t Loud
Musashi didn’t post motivational quotes. He didn’t announce his grind. He loved it.
Devotion doesn’t need witnesses.
If you only love well when it’s reciprocated perfectly that’s negotiation not mastery.
Skill means you operate from love as a baseline.
Not because someone “deserves it”
But because that’s your discipline.
Now don’t get it twisted, love as skill doesn’t mean tolerance for nonsense.
Even Musashi picked his battles.
#onelane doesn’t mean everybody gets access. It means whoever enters the circle feels stability.
Why this matters
We’ve been sold the idea that love is intensity.
Butterflies. Chaos. The almost-lost that makes it feel valuable.
But what if love is actually consistency?
What if it’s the quiet confidence of knowing:
“I don’t escalate emotions. I refine them”
Thats warrior energy.
And it’s funny because the people who move like this get called “nonchalant”
No.
It’s trained calm.
That’s a difference.
Final Cut
Musashi mastered the sword by removing unnecessary movement.
Love works the same way.
Remove:
Projection
Insecurity
Performance
Testing people to see if they care
What’s left?
Clarity. Presence. Choice.
A circle.
Miyamoto Musashi taught me Love isn’t a square you build toward.
It’s a circle you stand inside.
And if you stand inside it long enough, practicing daily, you don’t fall in love.
You move in it.
UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN
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